I was born in Baghdad

As an Arab woman and a few years over the age of 25, I get the questions “shouldn’t you be married right now”, “why are you not married”, “Do your parents try to force you into marriage”, “Must be hard for you to be who you want to be”.

I think that the previous generations and the culture created an image of a woman that has by far changed over the last decades.

First of all, I do not think that marriage is a priority in my life. I love my life the way it is now, I have great career opportunities, I am an adventurous type of woman and I do not feel less Arab because I do not have a ring on my finger. Unfortunately, the society has not seen all the great Arab women out there that are actually doing great things.

Yes, my parents are Muslim, yes they are very into our Iraqi cultural, yes of course they would be happy if I found my perfect husband and yes they have many rules that I had to live by. But it doesn’t mean that they will never stand behind me when they see that my happiness is not quit similar to what they had in mind for me.

I moved to Australia, and they were not very happy about it, yet I am here and they are very proud of me.

I ran marathons that were in other countries and I traveled alone, yet they did let me go and I know they always thought that I might not make it. They still supported me.

I am  not married yet, and they wish I was with someone right now, yet they are still happy that I am enjoying my life with or without a partner. And although they keep asking if I met someone, they will never force me into marriage.

My parents think that education is very important, they think exercising is absolutely a must in someones’ life. My mom always told me to never let a man raise his hands or voice towards me. My dad always treated me with lots of care and love, and he listened and gave me advise whenever I felt upset.

Yes, I was born  in Baghdad and I come from an Islamic family. And I live my life the way I wish to, because I believe that Arab women are capable of doing great things in this world. And I can already see the evidence in my life.


My parents and I at my graduation

Are you tired?

Are you also tired of depending on other people. Always running behind other to do you a favor, always being so polite and almost licking a** because you need someone to get you what you want?

It is so annoying to be sooooo nice to someone you actually want to punch in the face!!! AND some big guys make use of their power because THEY know you need them.

I SAY NOT ANYMORE!!!!!!!! That is THE REASON why you have to create and develop your success even if it seems impossible even if it is so hard to do it all by yourself. DO IT ANYWAYS because one day you don’t have to ask for anyone’s help BUT people will be happy to help you out. AS THE MATTER OF FACT, helping you out means that you are doing them a FAVOR.

Go after your own success, and use your own abilities, powers, knowledge, forces, mind, and body to get you where you want to go. Do not run after people’s back so you can skip a few steps. Keep your honor high and do it yourself. Surround yourself with the people that want to see you succeed but remember: YOU HAVE TO DO IT YOURSELF.

Your own actions will bring you to where you want to be!!!

Phenomenal woman,

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

*Maya Angelou, “Phenomenal Woman” from And Still I Rise. Copyright © 1978 by Maya Angelou

Tips and tricks

My first day without cigarettes, man it is hard! I’m moving all the time and I cannot focus a 100% on one thing, I’m doing many things at the same time. Looking at my phone, blogging, writing my thesis, eating, thinking about running, thinking about when to book my tickets, where I should stay, who is passing me by now, what are people doing. ALL OF THIS at the same time in my head.

BUT until now I managed NOT to smoke, even though I want to run to the store now and by a new package.

So to keep my mind away from the cigarettes, I am now listening to some zen music.

I have read on the internet that eating bananas can help you stop quitting and also vegetables. They also recommend to not drinking coffee because it will give you the desire to smoke a cigarette as well. This is because smokers associated cigarettes with coffee. SO this morning I did not have coffee but a forest fruit tea. I also brought my vegetables with me to school. And one last thing is to drink lots of water so you will get the feeling of being full. Every time I think of a cigarette I take a sip of my water.

Last but not leasttttt is will power, I WANT TO QUIT PERIOD!

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