The secret of all the secrets of happiness

All these books and the quotes and the teachers and the legends and life coaches giving us the “secret” of happiness.

I don’t think it is a secret anymore, because everybody knows about it, everybody has experienced happiness whether it was for a long time or just one second and everybody is talking about it. But the thing that surprises me is that it’s not even something that is common sense for humans anymore. People put it as a priority, as a goal. But should HAPPINESS really be a goal on your list? Something to achieve in the future? I don’t think so, that is so weird. How can you achieve happiness if you don’t even know what it is. Because if you did you would have felt it right?

They say happiness is in the most simple things in life, it can be achieved when you are grateful for the things in your life. But if it was so simple everybody would get it, everybody would recognize how happy they actually are. However, that is not the case.

And then I kept asking myself, am I happy? What is it, happiness? Where is it hiding? So after thinking and over-thinking and reading and puzzling quote after quote I found my answer: F*** IT!

Yes that is my answer :), because if you stop giving yourself a headache about what is going to happen in the future and keep worrying about things that has happened how will you ever find happiness. It is in the very moment that happiness is ready for you. In this moment right now, where there is no desire for the future. Where all that has happened and all that is coming are only an illusion. You have got to let go.

Now, I’m not saying to stop thinking about the future and stop dreaming and setting goals for yourself. But once you have done that, let the universe take over. Work for your dreams one day at a time, if you have to take a different way to achieve what you want just let it be. F*** it, and go with the flow. 

There it is, not a secret at all. It is very simple, yet difficult to do.

Good luck!

After the rain comes the sun

When we are not happy with the ‘now’ we seek for hope in the future, but let me tell you that you are making one big mistake. When you always look for hope in the future you will never be happy, because the future will always stay in the future. A bit confusing? Well to make it easier, acknowledge the moment, feel the moment, and live the moment, because that is everything you will have and nothing else. Okay if you think, but Maani what if this moment is so negative, what if this moment makes me unhappy, what if I feel depressed? No worries my friend, here are the magic words that will help you to come out of your misery: ‘How does it serve me?’

Do you understand what I mean? No..? Okay here follows an explanation:

When you feel that something is bothering you, someone is making you upset, a situation is turning out to be a disaster it is because you attracted this to yourself, into your life. When your mind is doing this it means that it will serve you in a way to learn something positive out of a negative situation.

Example: my boyfriend broke up with me and I feel so unhappy. SOOO did this made you realize something, did it taught you a positive thing…? Yes, I should appreciate the people I love

Whatever, this is an example but everybody has his/her own situations of course. When you start recognizing why you attract things in your life you will understand the underlying meaning of every negative situation and just like magic you can turn it into a positive one.

We do not have to wait for the rain to stop and the sun to shine, we can enjoy the rain, let it clean and wash the sorrow and pain away and we will welcome the sun with a brighter smile.  

“Hokus Pokus”