I was born in Baghdad

As an Arab woman and a few years over the age of 25, I get the questions “shouldn’t you be married right now”, “why are you not married”, “Do your parents try to force you into marriage”, “Must be hard for you to be who you want to be”.

I think that the previous generations and the culture created an image of a woman that has by far changed over the last decades.

First of all, I do not think that marriage is a priority in my life. I love my life the way it is now, I have great career opportunities, I am an adventurous type of woman and I do not feel less Arab because I do not have a ring on my finger. Unfortunately, the society has not seen all the great Arab women out there that are actually doing great things.

Yes, my parents are Muslim, yes they are very into our Iraqi cultural, yes of course they would be happy if I found my perfect husband and yes they have many rules that I had to live by. But it doesn’t mean that they will never stand behind me when they see that my happiness is not quit similar to what they had in mind for me.

I moved to Australia, and they were not very happy about it, yet I am here and they are very proud of me.

I ran marathons that were in other countries and I traveled alone, yet they did let me go and I know they always thought that I might not make it. They still supported me.

I am  not married yet, and they wish I was with someone right now, yet they are still happy that I am enjoying my life with or without a partner. And although they keep asking if I met someone, they will never force me into marriage.

My parents think that education is very important, they think exercising is absolutely a must in someones’ life. My mom always told me to never let a man raise his hands or voice towards me. My dad always treated me with lots of care and love, and he listened and gave me advise whenever I felt upset.

Yes, I was born  in Baghdad and I come from an Islamic family. And I live my life the way I wish to, because I believe that Arab women are capable of doing great things in this world. And I can already see the evidence in my life.


My parents and I at my graduation

I can’t afford that

It’s already the end of September and I CAN NOT believe that the time flew by so quickly. It felt like everything went so slow but then I realized just this morning that we only have 3 months left of this amazing year 2015.

And then I became aware that I can’t afford losing my feelings and thoughts and days and time and everything I own on the things I do not want and on the negativity that people bring. I can not feel bad or feel sick when I have A CHOICE that I can feel good! And I ABSOLUTELY can not afford a day without reading something that will inspire, motivate, and or help me to grow.

With that being said, I also realized that I can not afford another day, week, month or year just planning things and not taking actual actions. And all of this came to me this morning while I was on the train going to work, when I realized that it was the 30th of September and what have I reached so far.

I am a goal freak, and not seeing myself growing and moving forward can drive me crazy. And I hope that everyone of you has the same thing. So here is another amazing thing that you and I can do to finish this year with a full feeling of satisfaction.

3 months goal list!

What have you done so far? Where are you now? What do you still have on your goal list that is a MUST for 2015? How can you get there? Make a plan and make it WORK! Even if you will not achieve as much as you wished for, you can at least take action, and who knows 2016 might be an AMAAAAAAZING start for you.

Don’t forget to reflect on what you have reached so far. I am so proud of myself by what I have done this year, and it has by far exceeded my expectations.

Good luck!

The secret of all the secrets of happiness

All these books and the quotes and the teachers and the legends and life coaches giving us the “secret” of happiness.

I don’t think it is a secret anymore, because everybody knows about it, everybody has experienced happiness whether it was for a long time or just one second and everybody is talking about it. But the thing that surprises me is that it’s not even something that is common sense for humans anymore. People put it as a priority, as a goal. But should HAPPINESS really be a goal on your list? Something to achieve in the future? I don’t think so, that is so weird. How can you achieve happiness if you don’t even know what it is. Because if you did you would have felt it right?

They say happiness is in the most simple things in life, it can be achieved when you are grateful for the things in your life. But if it was so simple everybody would get it, everybody would recognize how happy they actually are. However, that is not the case.

And then I kept asking myself, am I happy? What is it, happiness? Where is it hiding? So after thinking and over-thinking and reading and puzzling quote after quote I found my answer: F*** IT!

Yes that is my answer :), because if you stop giving yourself a headache about what is going to happen in the future and keep worrying about things that has happened how will you ever find happiness. It is in the very moment that happiness is ready for you. In this moment right now, where there is no desire for the future. Where all that has happened and all that is coming are only an illusion. You have got to let go.

Now, I’m not saying to stop thinking about the future and stop dreaming and setting goals for yourself. But once you have done that, let the universe take over. Work for your dreams one day at a time, if you have to take a different way to achieve what you want just let it be. F*** it, and go with the flow. 

There it is, not a secret at all. It is very simple, yet difficult to do.

Good luck!

Talk to your feelings

We all get angry, we all get sad or feel the fear of doing something. We all get nervous because of people or situations and we all feel like SH*T.

WE ALL HAVE THAT SO DON’T PLAY LIKE A VICTIM.

More importantly, what are you going to DO about it? What? You cannot sit around and cry about what has happened and what you are feeling.

So if you don’t know what to do and you are one of those cry babies, then I am offering you a solution.

Step 1: How do you feel? Give this feeling a name, put a label on it. If you know what you are feeling it will be easier for you to direct your attention to that thought that brought this feeling up. Example: I am angry at my colleagues. 

Ok, perfect you know now that this weird feeling is called, anger.

Step 2: Go with your mind to that feeling, look it up within your body. Do you feel tension, or a weird feeling in your stomach, do you have a headache? Flow with the energy of this emotion and go visit it.

Step 3: Observe!!! Close your eyes and look at it, in silence without judging this feeling. Just look at it. You might see a grey cloud, you might see the person you are angry at, what ever you see just let it be. Do not try and put your own imagination into work here. Do not change what you see.

Step 4: Talk to this feeling. It is there to teach you something, to make you aware, or even warn your from your low vibration. Ask it questions. Why are you here and why am I feeling like this. Example: I’m angry because my colleagues do not respect me. 

Step 5: WHAT are you going to DO about it? Have courage to solve your problems and take responsibility for it. for instance talk in a nice and polite way to your colleagues. Tell them that you do not like the way they treat you. Ask them why they act like this. And see it from their point of view. Example: Colleague: You were late for a very important meeting. You: Yes, you are right, I missed my bus this morning, I should have called to tell you, I apologize.

I highly encourage everyone to talk with their feelings, know why they are there and solve it. It will help release negative energy and upgrade your frequency. And who doesn’t want to operate on a higher frequency?!

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Monday Motivation

Another beautiful morning, how much I’m grateful for writing another blog. WELCOME MONDAY!

I got motivated by two videos I saw last week of Les Brown. He is amazing and when he speaks his words just hit you…. REAL HARD. Like BAM!!! He is so powerful and when I listen to him, his words always touch me. No matter what mood I’m in. He always manages to move something within me, a power, something starts to itch. I JUST WANT TO GET UP AND SCREAM

I           CAN                DO                 THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I (highly!!!!!) recommend you all to go and watch these two videos:

Video 1: Keep digging

Video 2: Negative people

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